Guest Post: How to Find Purpose in your Single Years

Today I want to share how YOU can find purpose as a single girl.  Because let’s be honest, sometimes it feels like your life won’t start until you get married, am I right?  But like I talk about on my blog, life totally doesn’t start when you get married.  It starts right now!

Before I start, I just want to make a little disclaimer.  These may be tips you’ve heard before.  But I wholeheartedly believe that they work, and they are life-changing because they’ve changed my life.  If you are still searching for purpose as a single girl and you’ve heard these tips before, can I gently ask why you haven’t implemented them?  Because if you truly did, it would make a difference in your life.  Am I promising you a perfect life if you follow these steps?  Definitely not.  But I think I can promise you a meaningful life if you take these steps to find your purpose as a single girl.

6 Steps to Find Purpose in Your Single Season

1. Remember what this life is all about.

I’ve talked about this multiple times on my blog, but marriage is not what this life is all about.  It’s about knowing God and making Him known!  

Marriage is a gift from God, no doubt.  But its too little a thing to live for.  God created us for intimacy with Him, and if we don’t remember that and we place all our hope in a future husband, we will be disappointed, and we won’t be able to find our purpose.

So don’t wait around for a guy.  Follow those plans that God has placed on your heart!

2. Truly become best friends with God.

Oh y’all, I think this is the step that has changed my life the most.  I can truly say right now that God is my best friend.  He’s the One I go to with everything.  It’s the most precious relationship!  

And you can definitely have that kind of relationship, too.  Start going to God first when something good or bad happens.  Make time with Him a priority (don’t know where to start?  Ashley’s Bible study course is an amazing place to begin!).  Trust Him with everything.  He’s so worthy to be trusted.

3. Find meaningful relationships and friendships.

It can be so hard to find good friends.  Trust me, I know.  However, it is so worth the effort!  Good Christian friends can keep you accountable, they can be someone to talk things through with, and they’re fun!

Don’t give up on finding these friends if you haven’t found them!  Keep being intentional and don’t be afraid to initiate conversations or “make the first move.”  So many people struggle with friendships, so chances are, the person you talk to would love a good friend!  Try joining a Bible study, a Christian college club, or invite somebody you kind of know to get coffee with you.

4. Serve, serve, serve!

It’s true, even though if you’re anything like me, you don’t like to hear it very much.  We do have more time as singles to serve.  I’m not saying that you’re not busy, and I’m also not saying that you should do everything that is asked of you.  But we don’t have to take care of a family, generally speaking, and we do have some extra time.

Also, God made us for serving, and it brings so much purpose and joy to life, + it helps get the focus off you and your problems!

5. Stop believing those lies about your season.

I know that there are lies that you believe about your single season, because I have too.  I challenge you to sit down and think about some lies that you are believing.  Write them out and then find Scripture that proclaims truth.

>>> Also, I wrote a blog post debunking 15 lies that single girls believe. It may help you if you don’t know where to start! Read it Here!

6. Have fun!

Enjoy this season!  You’ll never get this time back, and I know you’ll look back and wish you had just trusted God because His plans were far better than yours.  

So take that trip you’ve always wanted to take, go on spontaneous ice cream dates with friends (or even by yourself, ice cream is always a good idea 😉), or maybe even switch to a job that brings you life if that is where God is leading you!

My point: live this season to the fullest because God is working, and life is something to celebrate. 

I truly hope these tips help you find purpose in your single years!  They can be some of the best years of your life if you trust God and have an attitude full of hope and joy.

I’m in this with you girl,

Allison Marie

Hi!  I am Allison Marie, and I blog mainly about being single over on All Things Allison Marie.  I am currently a college student, and in my spare time I love eating brunch, hanging out with friends or family, and reading historical fiction.  You can follow along with me on Instagram @justallisonmarie!